Thursday, 9 May 2013

LOVE THIS


After stumbling across destructive advice, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan writes a letter to his daughter about what really matters in a relationship.

Dear Cutie-Pie,
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
You.
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
Daddy
♦◊♦
This post is, of course, dedicated to my daughter, my Cutie-Pie. But I also want to dedicate it beyond her.
I wrote it for my wife, who has courageously held on to her sense of worth and has always held me accountable to being that kind of “boy.”
I wrote it for every grown woman I have met inside and outside of my therapy office—the women who have never known this voice of a Daddy.
And I wrote it for the generation of boys-becoming-men who need to be reminded of what is really important—my little girl finding a loving, lifelong companion is dependent upon at least one of you figuring this out. I’m praying for you.

Monday, 18 March 2013

Which one will you buy?

This weeks Cheap & Chic pairs two of my loves, Sass & Bide and ASOS.



Polka dots always get me and this little grey marle number caught my eye for the cooler months.

LEFT: Sass & Bide The Torn Apart Jumper $220 Click to buy
RIGHT: ASOS Only Polka Dot Sweat Top $36.13 Click to buy

Get all spotted up in either of these items this winter!

Monday, 4 March 2013

Same, same but the same

This weeks Cheap & Chic is slightly different to last weeks as I have chosen two items to compare and indulge in.

Spot the difference:


With little to distinguish the two it would be hard telling the knock off from the original and with this in mind can you pick the Luxe from the Less? These booties are now in my price range and have got my eye set on them!


Top: Alexander Wang Anouck Chelsea Booties with Nickel Hardware - $600 Click to buy
Bottom: Tony Bianco Luxe Polish and Gold Trim Booties - $219.95 Click to buy


This one is a bit easier to pick out but nonetheless a great copy for a fraction of the price.



So again another little beauty in the bunch from Alexander Wang. A classic style tote with a little bit of edge.

Top: Witchery Maggie Shopper - $229.95 Click to buy
Bottom: Alexander Wang Prisma Tote - $685 Click to buy


That is all for this week's edition of Cheap & Chic - Enjoy!

Sunday, 3 March 2013

Frenchie

Feeling a little French today!



Reality

Where do you draw the line when it comes to a friendship?

This week I was taken on a journey of self discovery which ended with a very apparent hard reality hit on life. I've never been one to partake in confrontational conflict but maybe it is time I try. When you're friends with somebody who believes they are never wrong, how do you question their motives, their truths and their lies? Someone you thought you knew every detail of, turns around to bite you on the back side and you're not too sure why. 





Thursday, 21 February 2013

Sporting a new kind of trend.

Sport luxe is fun, fit and flirty and the inspiration for my first Cheap & Chic.
Each week I will be right on trend with what fashion savvy girls, like myself are currently drooling over. I will be researching what is hot and the easiest way to get your hands on it and fast.

This week I explored the leather cap and how bloggers, journalists and writers are all currently sporting one. I shopped around for the best picks of the bunch and the ones that may leave you with an empty wallet. Welcome to this weeks Cheap & Chic.
 
Starting off with this little beauty, which is sure to keep you right on trend without breaking the bank. Trusty ASOS is pulling out its finest tricks with this one. $39.95 and available right here.


With more of a matte finish this show stopper is middle of the range on the price guide and can be bought at The Accessory Store for $69.95. Get spending here.



Finally the last of the bunch. On the luxe side of the list this leather cap comes from Elliott Label. Approximately $120, click here for more information.